February is Heart Health Month and cardiovascular conditions continue to be the leading cause of mortality in the U.S.  Over 2,500 deaths occur daily from total cardiovascular disease.  According to the American Heart Association (2025), cardiovascular disease encompasses several conditions including coronary artery disease and hypertension.  The rates of disease and death are higher among women.  Risk factors comprising high cholesterol, smoking behaviors and overweight increase the chance of a person developing cardiovascular disease (CVD).  While clinical care and medication therapies remain a crucial part of treatment, the interprofessional team including clinical social workers, can support whole heart care.  The American Heart Association’s Life Essential 8 measure is holistic in that it incorporates diet, physical activity, avoiding nicotine exposure, sleep health, a healthy BMI, lipid control, blood glucose control and blood pressure management.  A Whole Heart approach can advance a healthy lifestyle through interdisciplinary services such as nutrition counseling, health coaching and mindfulness-based therapies.  Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) was studied in a group of women veterans at risk for cardiovascular disease.  A cohort of 164 women with CVD risk participated in an 8 week MBSR group (Saban et al., 2022). At follow-up they reported less perceived stress, less loneliness and reduced symptoms of PTSD compared to women who completed the standard 8 week health promotion group.  Their psychological well-being improved overall.  Similarly, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) was studied in a group of women who experienced a heart attack.  The group therapy was conducted through a teleconference modality as part of their recovery, with the aims of stress reduction.  At 6 month follow-up, women from the MBCT group reported greater reduction in stress compared to a control group that received heart health disease information (Spruill et al., 2025).  These outcomes underscore the benefits of a Whole Person approach that can leverage the skills of clinical social workers on an interprofessional team. 

In the late 1980’s, a film entitled Look Who’s Talking came out in which Bruce Willis gave voice to the inner thoughts and feelings of an infant.  I will never forget one scene in that movie, because of its eloquent demonstration of a piece of human development.  The baby’s mother is leaning over his crib, with the camera shot of her being from the baby’s perspective.  He has been crying, and the mother responds with, “Ooh; it looks like you’re hungry.”  The voice of the baby responds, “Whoa!  How did she know?!”

A few years ago, the University of Denver administration conducted interviews with corporate CEO’s and upper level management within the government to determine what their students should be learning in order to be attractive in the current job market.  The consistent answers were the ability to work in teams and good EQ.  Interesting that the art of accompanying is valued in many settings!

The theoretical foundations, structure and techniques of Neurodynamic Couples Therapy provide built-in motivators that enhance a couple’s desire to stay in treatment.  Those primary motivators are hope, respect and mutual understanding.

It has been said almost too many times that treating couples is very hard work.  But, so what.  Most couple therapists aren’t afraid of hard work.  What they don’t like is working too hard and feeling like they are getting nowhere.  It is very difficult to stay motivated that way.

Throughout my career, I have been drawn to opportunities that blend leadership with service. As a Public Health Service Officer and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, my commitment has always been to serve where the need is greatest. Whether during deployments addressing humanitarian crises or through research focused on homeless veterans, I’ve seen firsthand the difference compassionate leadership makes.

Fleeing treatment is an understandable wish.  Effective Neurodynamic Couples Therapy is often frightening and painful–sometimes horribly painful.  Metabolizing historical feelings requires that they be relived precisely as intensely as they were originally experienced when first stored, along with the perceived sense of danger that was present in the original experience.  It makes sense to be scared of this process, so addressing the wish to flee should be seen as a normal part of the treatment.

There is no doubt that treating couples is often quite difficult.  This is a primary reason that many therapists decide to not treat couples at all.  In fact, statistics say that the rate of failure for couple therapy is higher than for individual therapy.

What do prospective clients look for when seeking a new therapist? Credentials, education level, years of experience, and specialization are all important. But what about languages spoken, ethnicity, gender, clinician’s age, or their preferred pronouns?

Frequently in my consultation groups, I hear from therapists, “They just aren’t getting it.”  They are referring to the couples they are treating who feel particularly frustrating to the therapist.  “We’ve talked about the same things over and over again, and nothing is changing,” exclaims the exasperated therapist.

Men's health month is recognized in June of each year. This health awareness observance brings attention to a range of well-being concerns affecting men and encourages self-care along with preventive health visits. Well-being is an experience of health, happiness and prosperity. It is holistic and consists of many domains including physical, mental, spiritual, and social. These can impact the total health of men and illnesses unique to them such as prostate cancer.

Some forms of couple therapy have emphasized the importance of helping couples differentiate–helping them see each other as two separate individuals, instead of succumbing to a type of “twinning” where only alikeness is tolerated.  There are certainly benefits to helping couples resist the draw to substitute being alike for being close.  However, ignoring the nonconscious “sameness” of intimate partners is also missing an opportunity to make use of the right-brain natural attraction of similars in service of healing.