A few years ago, the University of Denver administration conducted interviews with corporate CEO’s and upper level management within the government to determine what their students should be learning in order to be attractive in the current job market.  The consistent answers were the ability to work in teams and good EQ.  Interesting that the art of accompanying is valued in many settings!

The theoretical foundations, structure and techniques of Neurodynamic Couples Therapy provide built-in motivators that enhance a couple’s desire to stay in treatment.  Those primary motivators are hope, respect and mutual understanding.

It has been said almost too many times that treating couples is very hard work.  But, so what.  Most couple therapists aren’t afraid of hard work.  What they don’t like is working too hard and feeling like they are getting nowhere.  It is very difficult to stay motivated that way.

Fleeing treatment is an understandable wish.  Effective Neurodynamic Couples Therapy is often frightening and painful–sometimes horribly painful.  Metabolizing historical feelings requires that they be relived precisely as intensely as they were originally experienced when first stored, along with the perceived sense of danger that was present in the original experience.  It makes sense to be scared of this process, so addressing the wish to flee should be seen as a normal part of the treatment.

There is no doubt that treating couples is often quite difficult.  This is a primary reason that many therapists decide to not treat couples at all.  In fact, statistics say that the rate of failure for couple therapy is higher than for individual therapy.